My Hijab Story

Assalamu Alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. In the name of Allah, the most gracious, the most merciful and may peace and blessings be upon the Prophet Muhammad SAW, his companions, his entire household and the Prophets who came before him.

Let’s say my journey was a weird one. The reason why I say that is because it wasn’t until very later on in my life that I realised the true worth of hijab.

Before I go into the details of my first encounter of actually wearing it, I’d like to point out to you the verses in the Qur’an regarding the Hijab in which Allah says:

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment..” (24:13) 

“O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.” (33:59) 

Now, why did I pay mention to these verses?

Well, because like I said before, I never really and truly paid attention to these ayah after a long time and I never truly understood them like I do know but alhamdulillah, Allah swt has His ways of teaching us things and everybody is on a different journey.

 

Now, fast-forward to the emotional, dramatic, life-changing bits if you want to put it like that!

Thoughts on Hijab

I really think the thinking process of the Hijab is so important. It was actually my mother (may Allah bless her and give her Jannah) who provoked the thought. She wears it so the inspiration came from there mostly. Most importantly, there comes a time in a muslimah’s life where she must seek the wisdom behind His commandments once they become a duty upon her. Also, this is where intentions sparks from. Make your intentons sincere, kind of like foundations of a building. If the foundations of a building are weak what use is the buliding going to be right? Intention is key.

The big day

Now, besides a girl’s wedding day, I’d say THIS should be a very important time in her life. The day you take the responsibility of fulfilling something beloved to Him, I think of it this way, the things He makes obligatory upon us is only for our own good and that’s all because He loves us. Subhan’Allah. So, the big day was the first day of secondary school, I was thinking about it so much over the summer holidays, it felt exciting because me and my friend decided we should support each other and both wear it as soon as school starts. Now, 12 year old me is feeling really nervous, I had major butterflies that day! Subhan’Allah. It felt weird but amazing. I felt different but a good different. I walked through the gates that day, there were alot of new faces which was an advantage for not feeling too uncomfortable I guess. My friends were supportive but to be really honest, on the first day of secondary school nobody really cares how you look because everyone is too busy feeling nervous and are generally just worried about themselves!

Now my journey didn’t stop here. I told you it wasn’t a normal transition for me. Quite a rollercoaster but nothing is easy.

Trials

In terms of challenges, I faced many. I will mention one which many sisters have been through and are still going through. That would be social pressure. I wasn’t a little girl anymore, I knew that but I was very much driven by other people’s opinions. Bear in mind, that was the old me. I lived for people if you want to put it like that I guess. So, if I wasn’t doing what everybody else was doing, it was a major problem for me. When I was the age of 15, this attitude started to kick in. Now, fashion trends are a very very huge obstacle for a Muslim girl living in the West. If you are weak in eeman like I was, Shaytan will lead you astray, thats his aim and he’ll make you think everything you’re doing is okay.

It’s very important that we understand hijab because not knowing its true essence can be detrimental. My appearance was not up to a modest standard. Hijab means ‘veil’ right? Of course, but little did I know and neither was I taught it was wrong to be wearing inappropritate clothing with my headscarf. I just justified it to myself in my head. I wouldn’t go any further because you all probably get the picture. I was one of those modern day hijabis you see in the street and stop yourself from judging her, because ‘she might have a cleaner heart than you.’ Yeah. Them ones.

Eventually, I got there, I realised it was wrong and so contradictive to the true meaning of Hijab itself but that I realised for myself in time and I really wished I knew from the beginning. I wished somebody told me off for it or at least advised me.

Muslim women dont’ have a ‘The End’ to their Hijab journey’s until they leave this Dunya I guess!

I’d just like to say, I salute the akhawaat all around the world who take up such a responsibility of preserving their modesty, who manage to show societies that Hijab is a form of liberty rather than oppression. As well as that I’d like to say I really admire the niqabi sisters especially, who I aspire to be like someday insha’Allah ta’ala, their struggle seems far greater.

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Barakallahu feekum.

 

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‘RIP’

Assalamu ‘Alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. In the name of Allah, the most gracious, the most merciful. May peace and blessings be upon our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW, his household, his righteous companions and the Prophets who came before him. 

In light of the current events which included the departure of Paul Walker nd Nelson Mandela (which was just confirmed within the recent hours.)
Many people have been posting their condolences, offering prayers etc, on social media platforms.

Soo.. whats the problem?
In particular, the comments being left by Muslims have disturbed many including myself. This is where it all goes wrong. We are of course allowed to pay our respects but like everything else in Islam we must try to be precise and God-conscious with our actions. In this case, I mean the writings of the abbreviation, ‘RIP’ and comments such as ‘may god rest his soul.’

‘Whats wrong with that? I’m being respectful.’

Yes, I understand and I have paid my respects also, but as a MUSLIM (because thats what matters first remember) we can’t be offering prayers to those who have died in kufr. Standard.

Let’s look at an example that displayed why our Prophet Muhammad SAW is a mercy to mankind.
Once the Prophet was seated at some place in Madinah, along with his Companions. During this time a funeral procession passed by. On seeing this, the Prophet stood up. One of his Companion remarked that the funeral was that of a Jew. The Prophet replied, “Was he not a human being?”

Subhan’allah this incident truly does display the love and respect our Prophet Muhammad SAW had for mankind regardless of their faith. Surely, we are expected to follow this HOWEVER this is not an excuse for us to make du’a or anything like that!
Was Prophet Muhammad SAW allowed to offer prayers for his own uncle Abu Talib? Was Ibrahim AS able to offer prayers for his father who also died in kufr?
No. So what makes us think it is permissible to be an exception for these individuals?
Thus, there is a difference between respect and making a form of du’a for these people.

I’d just like to clarify saying ‘rest in peace’ is rather ironic due to the will of Allah and what he ordained for those amongst us who do not live by the kalimah and not do righteous deeds, they will have to experience the punishment of the grave! Khalas.

May Allah allow us to all depart from this world in a dignified manner, as mu’mineen and may our good deeds not go to waste. الهم آمين

May Allah forgive me for anything wrong I have said and anything good is from Allah azza wa jal.

Peace.

(@_Verbalist)

Advice for the Practicing Muslims

Assalamu ‘Alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
In the name of Allah, the most gracious, the most merciful and may peace and blessings be upon Prophet Muhammad SAW his companions, entire household and the Prophets who came before him.

So i’d like to discuss how it is that practicing Muslims should conduct themselves in terms of what information they’re conveying to Muslims who want to start practicing too.

My observations
So it hasn’t even been a year since I started practicing, I’d say I picked things up very quickly alhamdulillah. Allah allowed me to draw close to those who reminded me of Him. (Definitely, once you find that good company the more likely you are to be closer to Allah) However, I did encounter some difficulties where before I had even grasped the fundamentals of my Dīn I was caught up in a very sticky situation where I thought, ‘am I following the right aqeedah?’ ‘what if i’m doing X, Y and Z wrong because it might not be valid (like my salah)?’ and so on. The reason why these thoughts started to appear in my mind was all due to the two different groups of people who pursued different madhabs. I had gotten myself stuck between this and it was confusing.The details aren’t relevant, but what I did learn was, people have become very indulged upon refuting one another, ikhtilaaf here ikhtilaaf there there is too much emphasis on our differences. Now i’ll tell you why thats a huge problem. People like me at the time began to slowly distance from everything a little because I was frustrated as to whether I was upon haqq, all these worries etc. Now do you see the damage? Do you realise that some of us who always seem to be quarrelling is affecting the youth who aren’t so practicing? I’ve become very familiar with the pointless debates. Is this really a good look on Islam and its followers?

Where do we go from here?
Another thing that I tend to notice is, we claim to have knowledge. If we were truly aware we’d know not to ever claim in our lifetime that we are knowledgeable. Moving away from this would do us some REAL good.
Our main objective should be that once we’ve started practicing we should look to help others, give naseeha constructively and not to quarrel and be so petty.
Never expose your weaknesses to the enemy, our Sahaba RA would hold differences on certain issues but did they argue pointlessly? They travelled to several lands, traded there. They presented forth the fair rules of trading given to them through Islam as well as the demostration of good character and manners. Now that is what we need to focus on in’sha’allah, especially those who live in the West!!
May Allah give us hidayah, allow us to attain khushu’ and may we stay firm and conscious upon sirat ul mustaqeem.

Allahumma Ameen.
(Before my critics jump out to call me a hypocrite, i’m learning all this myself too so may this be a reminder to myself first!)

May Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong and anything good is from Allah, the most high.

PEACE.

(@_Verbalist_)

One of the five blessings

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem – In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most beneficent.

Just for a minute imagine life without your ears. Imagine one morning you wake up and you cannot hear anything.

Complete silence. Silence in every way, emotionally, physically and mentally. The beauty of our ears and how we all take advantage of them no one knows. Many of us abuse our ears and listen to things that are either haram or disliked and we don’t recognize the weight this will hold against us on Yawmul-Qiyamah, if we don’t speak against it.

Some of us listen to the loud blares of music; Allah says in the Quran
“Do you marvel at this statement, and laugh and do not weep, while you amuse yourselves [proudly] in vanities ? Rather, prostrate before Allaah and worship Him [alone].” [Surah An-Najm  Verse 59 to 62 ] 

According to Ibn Abbaas may Allaah be pleased with him, the word ‘saamidoon’ in this verse refers to the mushrikeen’s habit of singing and playing music noisily whenever they heard the Qur’aan being recited, in order to drown out the reciters voice so that others wouldn’t hear it.

Some sit in circles of backbiting or idle gossiping

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The most evil in my nation are those who speak too much, who spread idle talk and fill their mouth with words; and the best of my nation are those with the best character.” [Al-Bukhari, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Number 1308, Sahih]

For ten minutes put cotton buds in your ears; just so that the sound around you is dimmed slightly, go and do this.

How difficult is it? Are your parents raising their voices to speak so you can hear? Can you hear yourself breathing? Can you hear the cars going by outside? Are people mocking you because you cannot hear? Do you understand everything going on around you? Will you speak with such confidence?

Now go to sleep, lie down, imagine complete and utter deafness. Can you sleep? Are you scared? What if someone is about to burgle you? What if you cant hear your sibling or spouse in the next room? What if you don’t hear the smoke alarm? You can’t hear anything. There are people who live this lifestyle; these people have a hearing impairment. Practicing Muslims that have hearing impairment recognize the sins of music, idle gossip and much more because they value their ears; they know that wasting time by feeding their reduced hearing with things that have been made haram is a waste of time. They will automatically want to only hear the benefits of Deen and life.

So don’t de-value your ears, humble yourselves for the blessing that you have been granted.

Others use their ears of benefit, to listen to the Quran

The Prophet saw said to Abdullah ibn Masood: “Recite for me the Qur’an.” He said: “O Messenger of Allah! Should I recite to you and it was revealed to you?” He said: “Yes, for I like to hear it from others.” “I recited Surat an-Nisaa’ until I reached the ayah, “How (will it be) then, when We bring from each nation a witness and We bring you (O Muhammad) as a witness against these people?” [An-Nisaa’ 4:41] He then said: “Stop now.” I found that his eyes were tearful.” [Al Bukhari and Muslim]

Be in good company, that speak good of others or remind you of the goodness we are all striving for. At the end all your sins will do is mount to making you a dweller of the Hellfire. Enjoy the silence of the dunya.

 

 

 

Islam and Science

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem – In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most beneficent.

Allah SWT in the Quran teaches us about the fundamentals of Science, from the universe to the uterus, if we look closely the Quran is not only a guidance for all, but also a book that teaches you about Science and also Mathematics.

1. When a woman is pregnant, the zygote (not quite a baby yet) clings to the uterus of the mother in order to take nourishment from the mother’s blood. The zygote is no larger than that of 2 thumbs; this formation, which has been discovered by modern embryology, was miraculously stated in the Qur’an 14 centuries ago with the word “alaq”, which means “a thing that clings to some place” and is used to describe leeches that cling to a body to suck blood. “Recite: In the name of your Lord Who created man from alaq. Recite: And your Lord is the Most Generous.” (The Qur’an, 96:1-3) The zygote does exactly that, it leeches off the mothers uterus and sucks blood to gain what it needs. Subhanallah, the Quran was revealed 14 centuries ago, how could an illiterate man know what we know now through modern embryology? Indeed Allah is lord of the worlds, the All knowing, the Almighty.

2. “He has let loose the two seas, converging together, with a barrier between them they do not break through.” (The Qur’an, 55:19-20)  The North Sea and the Baltic Sea come together yet they do not mix. 1400 years ago Allah sent down the above verse to Muhammad PBUH, and only very recently have oceanographers discovered this. The seas do not mix due to the physical force called “surface tension”. It is caused by the difference in the density of their waters, surface tension prevents them from mingling with one another, just as if a thin wall were between them. The interesting side to this is that during a period when people had no knowledge of physics, surface tension, or oceanography; this was revealed in the Qur’an. Alhamdullilah!

There are many more like the above where Allah talks of Science however for one blog post those two points are plenty for the mind to wander.

Rebecca Kibria